| It's Friday night. You head downtown with your | | | | inside your head and question all the potential |
| friends into one of your favorite bars. | | | | situations that could occur like where the ball |
| As you walk into the venue, you notice an | | | | might land and how you should hit it? |
| extremely cute girl glance in your direction. | | | | Of course not. By the time you considered one or |
| What do you do? | | | | two of those thoughts, the ball would have hit |
| It is at this specific instant that most guys | | | | your side of the court and probably bounced |
| destroy any potential that could've been had. | | | | behind you. |
| If they even acknowledge the possibility of | | | | In other words, you have to have your head in |
| meeting the girl, which is quite uncommon, they | | | | the game. |
| will typically trip over their own thoughts as they | | | | Well, the exact same is true of social interactions. |
| try and "plan out" what to do. Their mind | | | | There are many subtle details, such as the |
| becomes a flurry of questions, "What should I | | | | emotional vibe of the interaction, certain types of |
| say? What if she does this? Does she have a | | | | humor, implied understandings etc. that all require |
| boyfriend? When would be the best time?" etc. | | | | you to focus on what's actually happening. |
| The reality of the matter is that all of this | | | | Guys worry about whether they'll say the right |
| incessant questioning is a sign of self-doubt. | | | | thing, or whether they'll be able to say anything at |
| I want you to imagine for a moment that you | | | | all. I'll save you the effort of figuring it out...if |
| are the coolest guy on the planet. Would you | | | | you're inside your head, trying to micromanage |
| ever "hesitate" to meet a cute girl? Would you | | | | the girl's perception of you, then no, you won't be |
| question yourself, as to how you should act? | | | | able to say the right things and it is quite possible |
| Of course not. | | | | that you will "blank out" and not know what to |
| The instant you saw the girl, you would have | | | | say, resulting in you having to excuse yourself |
| immediately gone in and said the first thing that | | | | from the conversation like some kind of social |
| popped into your head. | | | | outcast;P. |
| This type of behavior is quite scary to a lot of | | | | With any kind of automatized skill, whether it is |
| men. It forces them to go in "unprepared" and | | | | tennis, socializing or playing a musical instrument, it |
| rely on their natural personality. For guys that are | | | | is absolutely essential that you bring that level of |
| used to assessing situations ahead of time for | | | | self-trust to the activity. This enables you to draw |
| potential problems that might arise, going in | | | | upon the developed abilities that you already have. |
| "unprepared" is very uncomfortable. | | | | Don't question what to say, or who the girl's with |
| But I want you to consider this analogy for a | | | | or what might happen. Next time you see a girl |
| moment... | | | | that you want to meet, just go up and make it |
| Imagine that you are playing tennis. | | | | happen. |
| When your opponent serves the ball, do you go | | | | |